Know your audience

I don’t know what it is about the last few weeks – maybe the change of season; maybe something in the water – but I’ve been absolutely amazed at how often people have showed a complete lack of comprehension for who was in the room with them. 

This may sound more calculating than I intend it to, but I think its a good practice to always consider who you’re talking to before you start in on a conversation.  This is especially true when you’re negotiating for something, making a request or otherwise trying to drive to a specific outcome.  I’ve witnessed several pretty amazing examples of a complete lack of thoughtfulness around this notion of late.  From making idle (and counter-productive) threats, to inappropriate requests, to outright lying (which was sure to be uncovered). 

Stop and think…then talk.

  • Dan Burcaw

    Maybe a by-product of the twitter world we live in? The perception of accessibility could confuse the dynamic and result in some of the characteristics you are describing. Hmm.

    • Luca

      One by-product of the accessibility in the Twitter world we live in (“Twitterability”?) is certainly the loss of the quality filters built into mediated interactions.

      • sethlevine

        yah – the 'twitterish' notion that you should always just spew whatever comes into your head works in some media (i.e., on twitter itself) but isn't such a good idea in every situation.

  • Luca

    I actually love it when somebody does that – as long as it's a situation from which I can just walk away. It immediately tells me that I can stop wasting my time with them and move on.